From Dudes to Dads: Redefining Modern Fatherhood with Eli Weinstein
In this conversation, Eli Weinstein unpacks the emotional journey men go through as they shift from “just a guy” to a present, grounded, emotionally intelligent dad. Drawing from his work as a therapist, author, and host of The Dude Therapist, Eli breaks down the fears, expectations, and heart-level responsibilities that come with modern fatherhood — and how men can rise to them with honesty, humility, and strength. His new book, Dudes to Dads, gives fathers a roadmap to show up with clarity and connection in the moments that matter most.
Topics Covered
Topics Covered
- The emotional transition from “dude” to fully engaged father — what men often struggle with but rarely say out loud.
- Modern masculinity and mental health — unlearning the silence of past generations and building new patterns of emotional strength.
- Key insights from Dudes to Dads — identity shifts, communication, and redefining what support looks like.
- The role of fathers in raising emotionally grounded sons — modeling vulnerability, presence, and healthy expression.
- Practical, everyday habits for better connection — tools men can start using today to strengthen their relationships and parenting.
"Fatherhood isn’t about having the answers — it’s about being willing to show up while you find them.
“We have to stop treating emotions like the enemy. They’re the roadmap to deeper connection.
“Your kids don’t need a perfect dad; they need a present one.”
04:41 - Why the Book Was Written
07:45 - Relationship Strain After Kids
11:41 - Paternal Postpartum Anxiety
13:05 - Male Vulnerability & Societal Pressure
15:01 - Masculinity and True Strength
21:20 - Raising Sons with Emotional Honesty
27:19 - The Import/Export Home Culture Tool
33:52 - The Dude-to-Dad Transition
37:43 - Interdependence vs. Losing Self
41:33 - Sharing Hobbies with Kids
43:47 - How to Connect with Eli
44:54 - One Final Principle
47:10 - Closing Thoughts
Topics, Books & Ideas Linked
Dudes to Dads (Book): https://www.elivation.org/dudes-to-dads
The Dude Therapist Podcast: https://www.elivation.org/the-dude-therapist-podcast
Apple Podcast Link: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-dude-therapist/id1523217780
Spotify Podcast Link: https://open.spotify.com/show/0lQzVztPzPN8ZOcN0X2w1S
ELIvation Website: https://www.elivation.org
Emotional Fitness Concepts (Blog & Resources): https://www.elivation.org/blog
General Resources Page: https://www.elivation.org/resources